One of the puzzles life
places in front of us is how to say no to certain requests,
especially from people whom we respect so much or are very dear to our hearts.
Oftentimes, we've ended up pleasing them at the expense of our happiness in
order not to hurt their feelings. Too bad! How long will you continue to die in
silence? How long will you keep sweeping your happiness under the carpet? Don't
you think it is high time you made happiness a priority? Please don't get me
wrong! You can always say yes to people's requests, but don't
ever say yes at the expense of your happiness. You have the
right to say no; however, how you say it matters a lot. So how do
you say no without offending the person who needs your help?
- I'm
very sorry; I am helpless in this situation.
- My
hands are tied now; you could come some other time.
- I
have a lot on my hands now, could you please come the next time?
- Regrettably,
there is not much I can do; it is an unsavable situation.
- I
have my back to the wall; I hope you would understand me.
- I wish I could do something about it, but it's unfortunate I cannot help.
Using either of the above expressions will not only
create a peaceful coexistence between you and the person, but will also
portray you as one who has the heart of gold. Therefore, you shouldn't resort
to either of the following (impolite) expressions:
- No!
(Saying no to a person without explanation is impolite).
- I
said I can't help you! Are you deaf?
- Do I
look like a philanthropist to you?
- Must
you always come to me for help?
- I
don't think I can help you again!
- Do you always have to ask for help?
Remember, your
language, to a very large extent, says a whole lot about you. Choose it wisely!
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Many people don't know how to say No politely and obviously don't want to offend people, so they ended up accepting wrong offers
ReplyDeleteVery true!
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